Monday, November 1, 2010

Charity






Cheering Each Other On

Jacob Fullmer, “Cheering Each Other On,” NewEra, Sep 2009, 16–20

When two high school cheerleaders made a move to help someone else, they had no idea how much it would help them as well.

The basketball arcs through the air and whips through the net. A timeout is called. Before play starts again, the cheering intensifies. As it morphs into words, however, it becomes clear the crowd isn’t cheering for the team. “We love Brittany! We love Brittany!” bounces around the gym as a quiet girl on the sideline starts to blush.

Brittany Crockett is this year’s honorary cheerleader at Syracuse High School in northern Utah. As the other cheerleaders roll through a line of backflips and handsprings, she speeds to the center of the court, closes her eyes, and does a 360 in her wheelchair.

Brittany has muscular dystrophy. And her experience as a cheerleader is proof of just how powerful kindness and determination can be.

In the Beginning

When Brittany was only one year old, she was diagnosed with muscular dystrophy, a disease that slowly weakens the muscles until they don’t work correctly. Doctors told her parents she wouldn’t live another year. Fourteen years later, doctors again told her the same thing. But Brittany does try to beat the odds in just about everything.

“One time when I was little and I had more strength, I tried to stand up. I was so mad. I said to myself, ‘I am going to beat this and that’s that!’” she says.

With that kind of determination, trying out for the cheerleading squad didn’t seem too tough. After all, Brittany is pretty much like everyone else her age, except for a few things, like her new high-powered wheelchair. Her friends talk about it like it’s a brand new car.

Another difference is that when Brittany misses school because of her health, she would rather be in class than at home. And while some teens her age might obsess over fashion, she doesn’t even know her own shoe size, a consequence of being physically unable to put them on. Because the disease weakens all of her muscles, she can’t perform some simple things we take for granted, like being able to cough without the aid of a machine.

Cheering with Her

Brittany first became excited about cheerleading in junior high. It looked to her like something she could handle. As high school started, she didn’t forget that feeling.

“She constantly mentioned it. Over and over again I would hear, ‘I wish I could do that,’” her mom says. “And then one day, she said, ‘I want to do it.’” And with that conviction, her parents started asking around to see what that would take.

At first, the school district said no, over concern for Brittany’s health and safety. “We just kind of accepted it and moved on,” Brittany says. She planned to ask again the following year, but then, a surprise phone call let her know she wouldn’t have to wait.

“We had heard this girl with muscular dystrophy wanted to be a cheerleader,” says Kaitlyn Glauser. Though nervous about being told no herself, she recruited the help of another friend and fellow cheerleader, Elleny Swanson. Then the two of them did what cheerleaders are taught to do—rally support.

They generated an explosion of excitement from administrators and students alike. The district reconsidered and said with so many people urging her on, they approved. But the biggest shock came when they broke the news to Brittany.

“I just wasn’t ready for it,” Brittany says. She had nearly forgotten about her wish while Kaitlyn and Elleny had been asking for permission. “We wanted to make her dream come true,” Elleny says.

And as her dream came true, some of the school’s dreams did, too. With Brittany on the sidelines, the football team went from two wins and 11 losses the previous year, to qualifying for the state semifinals the next year. Believe it or not, the team won every game Brittany cheered for and lost every one she couldn’t attend.

“The cheerleaders started calling me their lucky charm. I’d get calls, ‘You’ve got to come! You’ve got to come so we can win!’” Brittany says.

Giving Back

It would be fine if the story ended there, but don’t forget that those who give service often feel the most served in return.

At games, the student body chants for Brittany as loud as they cheer for the team—if not louder. Her contagious happiness and “feisty side” create a lot of incentive for the squad members to become better individuals.

Brittany, on the other hand, is humble when talking about her own contributions. “All I’ve done is just be on the squad. I feel like I need to give them something.” The girls will tell you otherwise.

“She does so much for the squad. It makes us better people because Brittany is there. We love having her with us,” Elleny says. Their focus on helping one another has helped get rid of any high school “drama” between the girls. “We’re all very best friends,” Elleny says.

“I don’t think we really knew how big this was going to be,” Kaitlyn admits.

These youth learned a little more about what the Savior meant when He taught, “For whosoever will save his life shall lose it; but whosoever shall lose his life for my sake and the gospel’s, the same shall save it” (Mark 8:35).

“Bringing Brittany on the squad had an impact on our whole school, not just our squad—and not just Brittany’s life,” Elleny says. “It was so cool to see how a community could come together because of one girl. That’s when you realize what it’s all about. It’s all about giving back.”

And all this happened because two young women, and then a group of high school teens, gave up thinking about themselves by going out of their way to include someone else. That’s the kind of high school history we all want to be a part of.

Three Cheers for Family, Friends, and Church

There’s a sign over Brittany’s bed that reads, “See yourself as God sees you.” That’s a good summary of what others have done for her and of what she has done for friends, family, and ward members.

“At church, the other kids just take her situation and run with it,” says Brittany’s mother, Heidi. “They come up with ideas on how to involve her, more than I ever could.”

“Her circumstance has helped us to see the very best in those around her,” says her father, Doug. “She is included in a great circle of friendship.”

“Brittany is an example of unwavering optimism,” says fellow West Point Eighth Ward member Emily Davis, 13. “If you’re having a bad day, seeing how happy she is makes your day better,” says another ward member, Caitlin Steed, 12.

Brittany finds joy in simple things like studying the scriptures or walking the dog with her little sister, Ashley. “I know the time will come when my physical problems will be resolved,” Brittany says. “I just don’t know when, so in the meantime I try to find the blessings in my life.”

With faith in her Heavenly Father, she is both cheerful and cheering others along.

NEmore

For more photos and a video of Brittany and her family and friends, go to newera.lds.org.

Brittany has been excited about cheerleading since junior high. She believed she could do it from her wheelchair. But it wasn’t until high school that friends got involved and she was finally given a chance. She has returned the favor by strengthening everyone around her. In fact, the football team was so grateful to her that they all signed a game ball , which she keeps on her shelf.

Whether it’s at a game or after practice, Brittany finds herself surrounded by respect and love, and she reflects them to others. “She’s really made an impact on all of us,” says Elleny Swanson. “She has the light of Christ in her, and everyone knows it. Having that influence on the team was the extra good thing that we needed.”



I've been so blessed with the opportunity to know Brittany. A while back, Britt wasn't able to read the Book of Mormon on her own, but she wasn't going to let that stop her from reading it. She had people volunteer to read it to her, I was lucky enough to be one of those volunteers. I have learned so much from Brittany in the short amount of time we've spent together. She is truly and example of charity and faith.

Britt never ceases to amaze me. I went to a lot of sports events in high school and there was always something different when she was there- more school spirit, cheering, support. I remember talking to her one day about girls basketball. She had been very sick and hadn't been to school for months, so obviously wasn't able to go to the games. Silly girl felt so bad that she hadn't been cheering at their games! What she didn't know was that she was at the games(kinda)... The team wrote her initials on their calves for every game. How amazing is that? Even when she isn't around she still has a huge impact!

She volunteers at nursing homes and plays games with them, she always has a smile on her face that could brighten anyone's day, and is a great person to be around. Of all people, she has an excuse to just worry about herself and not serve anyone. But that's just not Brittany! A week ago she asked to do a fundraiser for a friends mom who had been diagnosed with leukemia. I think we could all be more like her.. the world would be a better place!

Brittany, if you're reading this I want you to know that you are so loved and adored. So many people look up to you. I've only really met you this past year, but even in junior high when you probably had no idea who i was- I was definitely a fan of you:). I can honestly say that because I know you I have been changed for good, and I am willing to bet that almost anyone who has heard your story or has met you can say the same. You are an example to all of us, an example of selfless service, faith and charity. You are so humble with your circumstances and you make me want to be a better person. You have made a huge impact on my life and everyone around you. You are so strong and beautiful. I don't know if one girl has ever had much influence in a small town, but you've done it! If it wasn't for you Syracuse High wouldn't have much spirit, or love for each other. Just by being a part of the school you made it better, people wanted to serve and looked past physical appearances. Thank you for your example and your sweet spirit. I love you Britt!!!

Thursday, October 14, 2010

Happy birthday Luke! I miss you and can't wait to see you again :)





Luke Jason Strickland SYRACUSE - Luke Jason Strickland passed away peacefully
at home with his family on May 28, 2005. Luke's passing was the result of
complications from a near drowning accident on May 8, 2005. Luke was a sweet,
perfect baby in the eyes of his family, friends, and especially his mom and
dad. He was affectionately referred to as biggie boys and cutest. Luke got the
most out of his short 19 months of life. He loved being outside pushing toys,
playing with his brother and sister, reading books, and especially following
the ducks. Luke enjoyed all people. He was very friendly and often said hi in
his own special way. He was constantly found with a smile on his face and a
friendly personality that made everyone happy. He loved his family and has a
special bond with his brother Tate, and sister Savannah, that will extend
beyond this earthly life. He was always happy, patient, kind, funny, and
lovable. We truly feel blessed to have been chosen his parents even for such a
short period of time. He has taught us greatly and our lives will never be
the same. Thank you, Luke. Luke will be greatly missed throughout this life,
but we know we will be together with him as a family through the eternities.
Luke is survived by his dad (Jason Strickland), mom (Kristy Parkinson
Strickland), sister (Savannah Strickland), brother (Tate Strickland),
Grandparents (Jerry and Ardith Parkinson, and Pete and Linda Strickland).


I miss this kid like crazy, I can't believe it's already been 5 years since he passed. I absolutely love and adore him and his family. I am so blessed to have had the opportunity to be a part of their lives. ive learned so much from this family and how they've gone through this trial. I've losst a lot of people in my life and losing Luke was oone of the hardest things ive ever been through. I was 13 years old and Luke was like a brother. His death was so unexpected, so hard for me to comprehend, and it hurt so bad. I felt like a part of me died with him and I was devastated for a very long time. I didn't know why Heavenly Father had to take Luke... he was perfect, loved, and so young. The day he drowned was mothers day, it should have been a happy day for his mom- but turned out to be a living hell.

I think the hardest part for me was not being able to say goodbye. I babysat him the night before the accident and to this day I still wonder if I made his night the best last night he could have. I hope I didn't just put him in his crib with a bottle and let him cry himself to sleep. I hope I read him his favorite books, rocked him to sleep and sang to him. At times I wish I would have known that it was his last night here on earth, that I wouldve known to be more loving and valued my time with him more. But then again, I wouldnt have learned from this trial. Now I don't take life for granted. I try to treat every single encounter with someone like it could be the last, love like there's no tomorrow, and live without regrets.

For the longest time I asked "why?", but now I ask "what can I learn from this, what is Heavenly Father trying to teach me?". I may never understand why He took Luke from us so soon, but I know he had a reason. If we can learn to accept His will we can be happy.

I love and miss Luke so much, but I know this happened for a reason. This has been, and still is, a very hard thing to get through. I've learned and grown so much from losing Luke that I wouldnt have with anything else. Watching the how the family has grown is also a huge comfort to me. Luke is still there, his memory will always live on. Just because the person you love dies, doesn't mean your feelings end. They get stronger.

I hope that because I have lost loved ones that I can help others who are going through the same thing. Sometimes Heavenly Father answers prayers through other people. I hope that if I ever have the opportunity that I will be an answer to a prayer. If I could just help just one person through a trial, going through all these deaths would be more than worth it.

Luke would be 7 years old today. I can't help but think about who he would be today, but I know that he is happy and doesn't want us crying for him down here. It's been so fun to watch his brothers and sisters grow up, to see how different they all are and to see little glimpses of Luke shine through in them. I know I'll see him again someday and I can't wait. Happy birthday Luke, I love you!

Wednesday, October 6, 2010

I absolutely adore this girl. She is the sweetest girl ever.

A new chapter!






College... what an experience! I'm not gonna lie, I hated it at first. I'm pretty much over that now though! (except I still hate paying rent..) I miss my friends and family like crazy, but it's nice to visit on occasion. I've made so many new friends here and I love my ward. I have learned a whole lot just in this month living on my own. My eyes have been opened! I see the consequences for my actions when i was younger, choices, and friends that have all had a huge impact. Family is more special to me now that they're not always here with me and I have found out who my real friends are.

I'm lovin life and can't wait to see what the future brings... come what may and love it:)

Another chapter of my life is over..







Senior year has come and gone! Time sure does fly... I remember my first day of kindergarten, now I'm in college! Where have all the years gone? I sure do miss those days, and wouldn't trade them for anything. The heartaches, tears, friends made and friends lost, struggles, temptations, pain, and sorrows. No matter how hard things were, I made it! My trials have made me into the person I am today.

I sure do miss all my high school friends, but I know they're starting a new chapter of their lives. Time doesn't change anything between friends anyway!

Here are some pics from my senior year... college here I come! ( I'm new to this whole blogging thing.. don't worry I'll get better!)